Hiding from Time

I am hiding from time. It seems to keep creeping in, and creeping up, and catching me off guard. Can it see me here? Will it find me? Or can I sit here and be safe for a while? I want these moments. I want to take them and grow […]

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We loved with a love that was more than love

I struggle to explain how I feel about our relationship – about what we have. It is love for sure but also it is also ‘more’ than love and sometimes that overwhelms me. It is not something that I ever thought I would get and I think that is part […]

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Love and Trust

To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.     George MacDonald I wrote in Domination, submission and Trust that I believe that trust is vital in any relationship.  It is one of the cornerstones and without it the relationship will soon start to crumble.  In the same way, if […]

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Emily

Emily – A slave, a little, an aspie and a dinosaur. And my best friend. I don’t know where to start with how I am feeling but I wanted to write as I hoped that it might hep me. I suppose this is a bit of a eulogy; it seems […]

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Maintaining my Mindset

I am having some trouble maintaining my mindset at the moment. This does happen sometimes, usually when the stuff of life has de-railed us somewhat from the goal of our happily ever after. Some of these things are surmountable and other things seem to be less so. This has been […]

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No 7 and No 8 – the gifts of time

My instruction for today: On the 7th day your Dom gave to you: on a very busy day for Missy, the gift of time. When you go to bed tonight I want you to lay in bed naked and lightly touch yourself, as you do. I want you to take […]

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Sonnet xvii

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz, or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off. I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret, between the shadow and the soul. I love you as the plant that never blooms but […]

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A Dom in D/stress

I always love getting comments on what I write and on, A hard day made better, Sayyid’s Girl had asked if I could write about what happens when your husband has a bad or stressful day. I think that this is something that I have alluded to in a number of my […]

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A hard day made better

Today was a hard day. Things were full on at work and I also felt undermined by a couple of people. I took it to my manager and that didn’t make me feel any better as I didn’t feel supported.  I also had some strange scenarios to manage. You know […]

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Three Hours

  When life gives you three hours without anyone else in the house, you welcome it with open arms. This would be the case for HisLordship and I whenever the opportunity presents itself, but we have just spent seven weeks together, without even an hour when there was nobody else […]

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Under the Surface

I have felt horny all week. Somehow I just can’t seem to get enough of HisLordship. The kids are still here but the parents have now left and I feel like I just need to regroup. We have tried to catch time together and have managed a little during the […]

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What is D/s really about?

I was talking to my friend yesterday. She is vanilla but she knows about our lifestyle. She wants to hate everything about it so her first reaction to things is to screw up her face and say, “Oh I’d hate that!” but then she will ask me questions and delve […]

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The faces of my submission

I have been thinking for a while that my submission has a few different faces and after Dark and Dominant’s post popped up on my reader, I decided I was ready to write about it. I said in my post about Active Submission that I thought that once my husband agreed to this dynamic, […]

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3 weeks and counting

Three weeks to go, and counting. I am looking forward to the end of term, and a well earned break for a number of reasons but the main one is that I am excited to have the time and energy to invest into my submission.  This is not to say […]

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Ticking Along Nicely

I think I have said before that a D/s marriage is not all bells and whistles. The physical part of the relationship is amazing of course but much of the time you are a regular couple doing regular couple things. That is why I have always stressed that the emotional […]

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Special Offer (unlimited deal – see below)

I find that sometimes I can become caught up in life and become passive rather that active in affecting how things play out in our relationship. As a submissive I can justify this, thinking that I have offered myself, therefore I have done my part. But really that is not […]

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Taking a Trip

Going away with HisLordship always makes me feel close to him. Today we set off for a few days away to visit his parents. Unfortunately this was not a full on holiday in the sun (if only) but rather a quick trip to the other end of the country, so […]

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Submissive Questions

Why do I ask myself submissive questions? All behaviour is communication whether it is based on something that you say or something that you do. So the way you behave will say something to those around about you about what you are thinking and what you are feeling. Your behaviour […]

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Safe

Being exposed can make you feel vulnerable, and being vulnerable can make you emotionally dependent on someone else. Within D/s these feelings are all real, but they do not carry with them the same negative aspects as they might usually.  Being exposed can mean that you are at risk of […]

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