Laughter and Orgasms

I know they say that laughter is the best medicine and really this is not such a surprise. But when I tried to think of things which had made me laugh this week, I found it quite hard. That is not to say that I don’t laugh, but it tends […]

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Challenges

April here we come! As is often the case, I like to set myself a challenge now and then and the start of the holidays is always a good time for me as I usually have more time than during the term and so sign myself up to take on […]

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Are we still kinky?

This follows on from my post, Kinky, and actually ties in to my recent post, Ahhhhhh!. I said in my kinky post that sometimes I felt that I wasn’t really kinky anymore and that I wasn’t sure how important that part was to me. Although I wrote that post back in November of […]

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Holding Space — | The SafeworD/s Club

This post was written by kisungura and is on the blog at The SafeworD/s Club but I wanted to post it here too as I thought it touched on issues which might be relevant to others. There are times when I need to be broken by him, taken apart and […]

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"What's on, honey?"

Sometimes I look at the world around me and I wonder why society seems to be so frigid about accepting kink and BDSM. I suppose it has this dark reputation and is viewed as being for those who are a little deviant or out there. However, other times I look […]

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Patience and Sub-frenzy

I have never been a patient person. If there is something ahead, good or bad, I am inclined to want to get on with whatever it is. I don’t like waiting, and really I am not very good at it. I get a bit stressed and do not engage as […]

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To bruise or not to bruise

I have thought on and off about the marks and bruises which have been acquired in the process of having kinky fun as part of our D/s. Usually I would not welcome a bruise as I find it unsightly, and most of the shades it turns to do nothing for […]

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Living the Happily Ever After

Sometimes when you do a thing a lot, you can lose sight of the wonder of it. It can be easy, I think, to let things become usual or normal or everyday. Although I hate to say it I think this is also true of ttwd. This thing that we […]

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Submissive Plateau?

I wrote this post before and didn’t post it initially. I showed it to HisLordship and have decided now to post it as a sort of two-part post so this is Part one. Here is a link to Part two. The last few days has got me to thinking that I […]

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'Snap!' said the Crocodile

In a moment of epiphany I have realised that my new lifestyle has made me more happy and less snappy.  And I have to say that feels good.  I would be kidding you, and myself, if I said that I never snapped at all anymore but I have come to […]

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Adjustments

Sir has been away from home since Monday and won’t return until tomorrow. The time without him has highlighted how much both me, and our lifestyle have changed since we became D/s. Unlike previous trips, this time he left in a hurry so there was no time to prepare, and […]

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Discipline and Punishment

Recently I signed up for Loving BDSM’s 30 days of D/s. I have to say that this is a great resource for those looking to find out more about dominance and submission or those who want to get started in a D/s relationship, but I think it can also useful […]

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Exposure

In his recent post, What’s the Kick?,  HisLordship wrote,”I like seeing my wife on display for me, and for kicks I like to think of sharing that experience with others.” This has got me to thinking about where this could actually go and I have to admit that it is met […]

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I find that sometimes I can become caught up in life and become passive rather that active in affecting how things play out in our relationship. As a submissive I can justify this, thinking that I have offered myself, therefore I have done my part. But really that is not […]

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Come Fly With Me

A journey always allows time for reflection and the way home from a nice few days break was no exception to this.  I am not sure why, but a flight out of Heathrow always includes a long period waiting for takeoff. With a window seat you become quite aware of […]

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Taking a Trip

Going away with HisLordship always makes me feel close to him. Today we set off for a few days away to visit his parents. Unfortunately this was not a full on holiday in the sun (if only) but rather a quick trip to the other end of the country, so […]

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Absence

HisLordship was away for a couple of days this week. It is a while since we spent time apart and I was reminded of how intensely I feel his presence, even in his absence. The depth of our connection means that although I crave his physical touch, his emotional one […]

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Kinkless Sex

Sometimes it seems that there is a lot of focus in D/s relationships on kinky sex. Personally, Sir and I love being kinky and exploring that previously denied part of ourselves. But not all sex has to be kinky, and I think that when you enjoy a frequent and regular […]

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The Gift of Giving

Tomorrow I am attending an event where I will be speaking about the value of developing philanthropy in young people.  In thinking about what I might say, I obviously had to consider the rewards of giving, and as I am wont to do, I ended up relating this to a […]

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