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Exploring Bondage

Bondage is an interesting topic for me to write about and it is not something I have written about much before. Synonymous with the image of BDSM, and yet it is probably one of my lesser kinks. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy to be tied, restrained, spread and […]

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Play with me and play with you

Play is a huge part of our relationship. Much of our connection is fuelled by the closeness that arises from our play sessions; I have never been played with as much as I have been since becoming a submissive and this is something that I love. It is sort of […]

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The other me

In my other life I am a champion for others. This is a good thing, don’t get me wrong, but recently I have been feeling that the two parts of my life are becoming more and more polarised. Actually keeping things separate is something that we have worked to achieve. […]

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Dominance, Drop and and Discipline

A to Z Challenge – D Three more great topics for today. DOMINANCE. For me, without that there would be no submission, at least in the form that it exists now. HisLordship is not a Dominant, he is my Dominant and I am not a submissive, I am his submissive and […]

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Submissive Power

So we were lying there this Sunday morning enjoying a slow start to the day. We had woken up at the usual time and were snuggled up with ipads, catching up on social media. There was no rush so we enjoyed the time that we had but after a while […]

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Being Self-Conscious

So this is sort of a part two to yesterday’s post and came from the discussion with HisLordship following him reading it. He was asking me questions and talking about how the constant discussion and analysis of things at home when I was young had not only led to me […]

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No. 6 – missing you

I love this song and sent it to HisLordship this morning to let him know how I am feeling being apart from him. I like Snow Patrol anyway and have listened to them since I bought their first album back in 1998.  ‘Set the Fire to the Third Bar’ is […]

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Ahhhhhh!

I feel like I have had one of those great light-bulb moments of enlightenment about my submission, HisLordships’s Dominance and how that works within our D/s relationship. How has this come about three years down the road? Like most things really. By chance, by being open to new things, by […]

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Darkness

  I have always been attracted to the darkness.  I don’t know what it is about it but there is something about the mystery of it all that makes it appealing. Obviously real darkness is different but the dark side of a person, all their hidden desires and wants is […]

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School's Out for the Summer

So here it is. The end of term and I made it!  Yippeeeeeee. I have to admit I felt I was hanging on there by a silken thread at points this week but my pupils have all gone home, my desk is tidy, and my out of office auto reply […]

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Being nothing

Sometimes I want to be nothing.  It is a curious feeling and is part of a fantasy which I sometimes have.  It has only come along in the last few years, since the D/s and the power play has become much more of a formalised thing for us. During a […]

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Consensual Non-Consent

This is a post for a number of reasons.  It is partly a follow on from my last post on Consent and D/s which became too long to add anything else. It is also partly in response to last weekend when we were away together and HisLordship requested the presence of […]

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Expectations

To have expectations can be a great thing. It allows you to set standards and to measure where you are in terms of meeting your targets. Within a D/s relationship expectations are really important as they are a key part of the commitment that you are making to the other […]

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Femininity

I have been thinking a little more about what I wrote in my previous post about the fact that feeling feminine also made me feel sexy. I concluded that was part of the reason the D/s worked for us but that was something that I haven’t really thought much about before. […]

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DIY DOM

My Sir is good with his hands. This extends not only to how he deals with me, but also far beyond, into the realm of DIY.  It is great to be able to live with someone who can turn their hand to fixing most of the things that go wrong […]

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A Dance with Destiny

She met him at a party. She hadn’t really wanted to go but her parents had said that it was not optional. A show of their wealth and importance; what did she care for that?  Idiots, all of these boys her mother found. Flowers and chocolates – she just wasn’t […]

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Soliciting Dominance

Someone told me the other day that ‘When Dominance is solicited it will ring hollow. He has to want to change and choose on his own.’  I wondered what you thought of this?  As you know, I am a woman who asked my husband for this dynamic. Personally, I feel […]

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A Need for Domination

Domination is my safe place. For those who are not in a D/s relationship it can be difficult to explain why this is the case and how it works. Sometimes it can also be difficult to explain to my Dominant what it is I need and why I need it, […]

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Reflections on advent – so far

Part way through, not quite half-way, and I thought I would consider how things are going with my Submissive Advent Calendar.  It has been quite illuminating for me as a submissive actually.  I am not sure I have learnt anything that I didn’t know already, but it has certainly been […]

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Details of a naughty lunchbreak

It was a busy morning so I had not had much time really to think about what might lie in store for me. I had seen Sir’s comment on my post, however, so I knew he would have thought about it himself. I suppose when I had planned day two of […]

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