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Do you think I’m sexy

If you want my body and you think I’m sexy Come on, sugar, tell me so If you really need me, just reach out and touch me Come on, honey, tell me so This week’s prompt for The Erotic Journal Challenge is: What makes you feel sexy? This is an easy […]

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5 Reasons to go to Eroticon

For those of you who aren’t aware, Eroticon is “an annual conference for erotic creatives, writers, bloggers, photographers, and artists.” The conference is usually held in March and last weekend, we were lucky enough to attend for the second time. It is tradition to write about the experience afterwards, and […]

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A Virtual Meet and Greet

On Friday HL and I will be off to Eroticon and we can’t wait. We went last year and had so much fun, although I was really nervous about what to expect. This year I don’t feel any of those nerves and know that I can expect to have an […]

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Living in Parallel

I quite often feel that I have two parallel lives. I think that can often happen when you are in the sort of relationship which can be misunderstood. Part of me wants to say, “fuck it,” but the other part doesn’t use that language. That alerts me to the fact […]

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The Thrill of Shame

The Thrill of Shame

There is a lot that I find uncomfortable about my sexual thoughts and a lot that I would find distressing for others to know about. While they are fantasies in the sense that they turn me on, they are not things that I would ever want to do if that […]

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A shot of the erotic

There is much focus on photography of the erotic kind this month with Molly’s February Photofest. I see lovely pictures all over my timeline on twitter and on my blog feed. I am sorry not to be taking part as I have enjoyed the photography that we have done. I […]

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Playing with Others

We had a conversation today about playing with others. We didn’t start out to talk about this topic but it came up in a way as things tend to. I guess it must have been on the mind of one or other of us. Probably HL as it was him […]

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Posts, Puppies and Pubes

So it turned out that I took a break from writing posts last week. This was not planned, it just sort of happened. But it has made me think, once I got over my feeling of guilt that is. And that is it! Why was I feeling guilty about something […]

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2018 Review

2018 Review

This is my third new year online and I have always said something by way of an end of year and looking forward post so here is my rather long 2018 review. In reading again over 2016 I could see my desire to get out there and put effort into […]

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missy and HL exchange gifts as part of the D/s Advent 2018

Festive Fun – Our D/s Advent Calendar 2018

Well that is the period of advent at a close and, therefore, the end of ‘gifts’ that we were giving each other as part of our D/s Advent Calendar for 2018. I have posted about some of these activities and others I have left private. In order to be transparent, […]

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Thank You

The prompt this week for food for thought is being thankful. Thanksgiving isn’t a celebration that we have here in Scotland, but I am lucky enough to know some very lovely people here in blogland who are from the US and who do celebrate. Honestly, I have lots to be […]

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Please Vote for Me

I feel quite embarrassed to be writing this post. I have hummed and hawed a bit but decided that it was silly not to say what was on my mind. As you know, I started this blog as a way of documenting my journey as a married submissive. This was […]

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Mental Health: Food For Thought

I am always interested in mental health and emotional well-being and so I wanted to write a post for the Food For Thought Friday prompt this week. I do feel a little fraudulent, however, as I am fortunate that I don’t suffer from depression, so I did hesitate about posting […]

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Becoming a Butterfly

The Sinful Sunday prompt this week is transmogrify which means to transform in a surprising or magical manner. The butterfly is associated with symbolism of change and transformation so it seemed apt for the prompt as well as to illustrate how I feel about my own personal transformation. Within literature, the […]

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Lost

Sometimes I feel a bit lost. It has been one of those times and I am not sure why I feel like this. I think it started when something happened to make me question how comfortable I was with this other part of my life becoming exposed and judged by […]

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Losing the Groove

So I never wrote about the days in the cabin.  Having bigged it up in my head, I think that we lost our groove somewhat. Although it feels a slightly negative thing to write about, it is the reality for us, and I expect for some others, that sometimes the […]

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Shifting Limits – a picture of submission

Our focus this week at The SWC is Exploration and the Great Unknown. As part of that, HL has written a post about our limits and how they have changed over time. There are things that we thought we would never do which we have since tried and made a […]

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If the cap fits

You’ll learn from them – if you want to. Just as someday, if you have something to offer, someone will learn something from you. J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye When I first asked my husband to be my Dominant, it was hard to find resources which would be […]

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D/s and self-care

It might seem that focussing on the needs and desires of your partner would leave you open to being taken advantage of and not able to fully have your own needs met. I think that this can be a common misconception of those who do not have a full understanding […]

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