independent submissive

An independent submissive

Being independent and submissive I have struggled to resolve my independence with my submission at points and I know that I am not alone in this. Being an independent person and a submissive can cause a certain amount of confusion, certainly initially. So much of what we read of the […]

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You tell me we will play later and I hear the anticipation in your voice. You smile and go back to what you are doing but when you stand up later you seem taller as you look down and say, “Bed?” with an upturn in your tone that means I […]

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Bottom half

Bottom Half

This time for the Fun Theme Photo Meme the theme is half. So here is a picture of my bottom half which, looking at most of my images, is probably the most posted part of me. According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and […]

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erotic photography and where it fits

Erotic photography and where it fits

This post is about erotic photography and where it fits within our D/s dynamic. I have written about photography before, including pieces about publishing images, and also some pieces which touch on how it can make me feel with regard to my submission to HL. Over the years I have […]

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bit gag

Wearing a bit gag

I stay away from gags usually. Firstly I like to talk and so to be silenced is not something which appeals. Secondly, I have a bit of a saliva-phobia and so the thought of not being able to swallow properly and allowing myself to dribble and drool a little, is […]

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asking for dominance and submission

Asking for Dominance and submission

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 2 It is all very well knowing what you want, or at the least, thinking that you know, but once you have worked out what it is, you need to be able to ask for it or make it happen. Asking for Dominance […]

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sex and BDSM

Sex and BDSM: Dominance and submission

Many people assume that sex and BDSM are linked in that BDSM (Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) is always about sex. I suppose this depends on your definition of ‘sex’. For me, all of these elements would have a sexual charge, I find them sexy too, […]

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pleasure like this

I have never known pleasure like this

‘Many of us pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that we hurry past it.’ Søren Kierkegaard The sexual pleasure that came with the practice of Dominance and submission, sort of hit me in a way which was both unexpected but familiar. It was like something I had always known was possible was but […]

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Just another statistic to crawl for

Statistically, the odds of her finding herself here had been pretty high. He liked to play games, but the games, of course, were never really stacked in her favour. Well only insofar as he knew her needs of course. He loved a spreadsheet too. He kept data on everything and […]

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sexual epiphany

How it all started – a sexual epiphany

Memoir – Becoming a submissive wife Part 1 The winds of change really started when my mother-in-law recommended a new trilogy she had been reading as holiday literature that I might want to consider. “It has, you know, sex and things, but I sort of skipped some of that as […]

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Being missy - Me, myself and her

Me, myself, and her – being missy

She is me and very much me, but I am not always her. I don’t know if that makes sense or not but I hope that it does. Being missy is an important part of me and, really, she has always been there although I didn’t see her there before […]

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A time to transform

“Within you is the power to rise above any situation or struggle, and transform into the brightest, strongest version of you ever.” I found this lovely quotation and it seemed apt. I have struggled to find out who to attribute it to, as there were so many different sources, so […]

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seeing the sun hot tub

Seeing the sun

Things recently have been tough on all of us in different ways. In some senses it has felt that the slower, more basic pace of life has been a helpful breather, but in others, it is if we are existing in a pressure cooker of emotions. It has been a […]

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Haiku about waiting for play

Waiting – a haiku

He paints me in place,Pulls my mind into his space,Draws me out … and in. That moment, when I am waiting, something special happens. It may look like nothing, but, it is the beginning. I am not sure that my effort at a haiku puts it across as I feel […]

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In need of a spank

In need of a spank

“Why?” she giggled, nervously. “Because I want to,” he replied. “And because I have been watching you all night and my fingers are literally tingling to touch you. Also, I think that you need it,” he said, as if it were the most normal thing in the world to have […]

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The Fun Theme Photo Meme

Burlesque Baby – Fun Theme Photo Meme

I wanted to post this picture as part of a new meme which is being hosted by my good friend Sweetgirl. I know that she has worked really hard on this project and has been absolutely thrilled with the participation so far. So the idea behind the Fun Theme Photo […]

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date for a spank

A date for a spank

It is early on in our relationship and HL has told me that I have a date for a spank. We have the house to ourselves so he wants to make the most of it. He has gone upstairs to our bedroom and told me to wait 5 minutes before […]

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time travel - in white cowboy boots

Slipping in time

I am funny about messing with time. There are things I would change, of course, if I had my time over, but I wouldn’t go back given the choice as I worry that it would affect other things. I think that if you mess with what is or what could […]

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Lines and shapes

Lines and Shapes

I like lines and shapes. Between them they seem to provide order and pattern and promise. They tell me that I can stick between them, or push past them. I can remain with what I know, or venture further, farther into things previously unknown. Sometimes we realise that conforming to […]

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Valentine’s Date Night

We never really do anything for Valentine’s Day.  One reason is that it is so close to my Birthday and we have usually celebrated that in some way, and the other is that I am not really a big fan of commercialised days and ways to mark how I feel. […]

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