time travel - in white cowboy boots

Slipping in time

I am funny about messing with time. There are things I would change, of course, if I had my time over, but I wouldn’t go back given the choice as I worry that it would affect other things. I think that if you mess with what is or what could […]

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Codependency - couple with his arm around her

A couple of things about Codependency

I have written a post about codependency and D/s for The SafeworD/s Club which focusses on what makes a healthy relationship, and what a codependent D/s relationship might look like in contrast. I made the point in that post that although some people would see a power exchange as being […]

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Lines and shapes

Lines and Shapes

I like lines and shapes. Between them they seem to provide order and pattern and promise. They tell me that I can stick between them, or push past them. I can remain with what I know, or venture further, farther into things previously unknown. Sometimes we realise that conforming to […]

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missy in fishnets

Lola in fishnets

Things felt like they had been slipping for a while and she knew she needed to do something to get them back. It was hard though as in many ways she didn’t have the energy or the inclination. That was part of the issue really. They sort of mirrored each […]

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Valentine’s Date Night

We never really do anything for Valentine’s Day.  One reason is that it is so close to my Birthday and we have usually celebrated that in some way, and the other is that I am not really a big fan of commercialised days and ways to mark how I feel. […]

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romance - extract from valentine by carol ann duffy

Romance

I thought that I would start with the Carol Ann Duffy poem, ‘Valentine’ because, through her metaphysical interpretation, she turns on its head our preconceptions of romance, and I have always quite liked that. In comparing love to an onion, she covers many of the aspects of relationships which are […]

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blindfold

Blindfold

Blindfold in place, he starts. She looks so vulnerable and he feels himself pricking with anticipation. She wrinkles her nose a little as if to prove to herself that she can and he continues to watch her, making her wait. He can see her breathing start to change as her […]

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Fifty

Fifty has always sounded quite old to me so the fact that it is actually here feels a little odd.  I have thought for a while about the fact that I wanted to celebrate it though, because really, I think that it conjured up a different image in my head […]

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Submissive

For me complete submission is not about obeying rules without question, or about providing a service, or about having someone support me to push at boundaries that I have identified as being movable. It is about going beyond that, to a place where none of that matters anymore; it is […]

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used as ornament - objectification

Objectification as a Kink

I have an objectification kink.  I always feel a bit embarrassed about that because it seems wrong to want such a thing, but then again I guess a lot kink seems a little wrong, in a good way of course.  I don’t enjoy just any objectification though so it has […]

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wearing his collar and cuffs out to dinner

Wearing his collar and cuffs

I get ready as usual in the clothes that we have agreed I will wear. I see that on the counter, he has set out my play collar and cuffs.  It is not unusual to see them because often a hotel stay will include some heavier play and I know […]

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Bathtime Fun

Bathtime Fun

HisLordship and I have managed to sneak away for a night to a nice hotel, with a nice room, and this rather cool bath.  It feels like ages since we had some fun like this together and although the bath and the room are cool, I am hoping that everything […]

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My Shadow

According to the psychologist Carl Jung, the Shadow Self is made up of the aspects of our personality that we choose to reject and repress. Most of us never know our shadow as those elements remain in our sub-conscience and only manifest themselves through what he terms as projection, where […]

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submissive mindset

Submissive mindset and other thinking parts

So what is a submissive mindset? Generally there is quite a bit of reference on D/s sites to mindset. To me, having a submissive mindset is about the way that I think. It is a state that I am in which is determined by what is going on around about […]

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Colour Match

Colour Match

He opened the car door and led her into the shop. She couldn’t believe he was actually going to do this. Or more importantly, that he was going to make her do it. It was beyond embarrassing, but something deep inside her thrilled her and made her want to go […]

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Hourglass

Hourglass?

This is one of the images that we took for the letter H prompt earlier at the beginning of December. I was going for hourglass but when I saw it, it looked far less hourglass than it had looked, or indeed felt, at the time. I decided to go with […]

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Elf on the Shelf

Elf on the Shelf

As a family we have never done Elf on the Shelf and I only really heard about it the last five years or so, and, like Black Friday, appears to be another of those things which we have adopted from the US. The idea behind it seems to be an […]

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Control and D/s - the beginning and the end of everything

Control and D/s

The topic this time for Tell Me About is control. I really don’t know if I have any more to say on the subject. And yet I probably do. Why? Well because control is the beginning and the end of everything in D/s really. You can’t have a D/s relationship […]

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Naughty and Nice

Naughty and Nice

Naughty and Nice is part 2 to This post where Isabelle finds herself over the knee of her husband, receiving her first ever spanking. * * * * * * * She felt his finger press against her hole then and gasped. Was he really going to do what he […]

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fist of winter

Fist of Winter

Number 15 on the calendar for us was ‘The fist of winter’.  I have written about fisting before, and one post that I wrote quite recently was The hows and whys of fisting where I explain more of the nitty gritty to fisting. It also has links to some other posts […]

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