Zipper, Zone and Z-job

A to Z Challenge – Z Ok, X was hard but I think that Z is probably more of a challenge, but woo hoo, I made it to the end with this post. I have really found this challenge tough and regretted starting it just because of the sheer number […]

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Yes, Yours and Yellow

A to Z Challenge – Y Y is for YES as this is something I should be saying a lot. Yes, Sir to be more precise. I think being compliant is something that I have got much better at and I have also stopped asking all the questions which used […]

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X-Frame, X-Rated and Xylophone Mallets

A to Z Challenge – X Ok I will be really honest – the letter X has been a huge challenge. We don’t really do much that starts with X, in real life or in D/s so I am kind of scraping the barrel here. I suppose that the X-FRAME […]

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Warrior Princess, Want and Wand

A to Z Challenge – W When I first asked for this lifestyle, I had no idea really how it would feel. Submitting seemed like something that would work for me for a number of reasons but I didn’t know how easy or difficult I would find it. In reality […]

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Vulnerability, Voyeurism and Value

A to Z Challenge – V My first for the Vs is VULNERABILITY. I would definitely link this to safety as the two go together: I need to feel safe to show my vulnerability but showing my vulnerability leads to me feeling safer. Making yourself vulnerable can be quite uncomfortable at […]

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Understanding, Unique and being Used

A to Z Challenge – U Meeting the needs of the other person has a lot to do with UNDERSTANDING what their needs are. They may become clear during one of your communication sessions, or you may work out what they are based on what you can see in front of […]

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Trust, Transition and Training

A to Z Challenge – T T is another letter where there is quite a lot to say but I want to begin with TRUST. I have always trusted HisLordship but the sort of trust we have now is not anything that I ever would have anticipated. It is linked […]

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Submission, Spanking and Safety

A to Z Challenge – S An obvious for S would have to be SUBMISSION but that would mean linking my entire blog really. I have chosen the post The faces of my submission as I think that I have always been aware that there were many different sides to the way I […]

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Rules, Resets and Roleplay

A to Z Challenge – R My first R is RULES but for us this probably needs a mention to rituals as well as the two go hand in hand. Our rules, and rituals, have changed and grown with us. We started simple with just a few but have added […]

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Questions, keeping Quiet and Quickies

A to Z Challenge – Q Q is a more challenging letter to write about as the only thing that sprang to mind when I thought about a kinky alphabet was queening and we don’t do that. So my first Q is QUESTIONS.  As a submissive I find it helpful […]

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Pleasure, Pain and Power

A to Z Challenge – P Although two separate things, for me PLEASURE and PAIN sort of come together as that is how I like them. I have written about how that works in Pleasure from Pain but I have also written before about the pleasure that comes from being submissive which […]

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Orgasms, Oral and Openness

A to Z Challenge – O An obvious for the letter O is ORGASMS and I have already written a series of posts about different types of orgasms. I am also taking part in the 30 day orgasm challenge this month so that has left me writing quite a bit […]

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Nudity, Need and Nipple Play

A to Z Challenge – N My first N is NUDITY. Nudity is something that HisLordship loves and wants more of. I struggled with it initially but have made leaps and bounds of late. When I did my submissive advent calendar for him, I included naked piano playing and a […]

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Mindset, Maintenance and Middles

A to Z Challenge – M For the letter M I thought I would start with MINDSET. For me, adopting a submissive mindset has been the biggest reward and also the biggest challenge. It has meant that I have had to not only change how I behave, but also how […]

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Limits, Labels and Life

A to Z Challenge – L For the letter L I wanted to start with LIMITS. I think that it is important when starting out that you focus on Setting Limits especially for play. If you are like us and already in a loving relationship with your partner you will likely know […]

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Kink, Kids and Kneeling

A to Z Challenge – K An obvious for K would have to be KINK. Being Kinky is something I wrote about at the very beginning of my blog, but as time has moved on and we have explored different types of play more and more, I began to feel like what […]

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Journey, Juxtaposition and Journaling

A to Z Challenge – J I think that really, anyone who follows my blog will know that it is about my JOURNEY. This whole experience has been one which has changed my perception quite significantly. It is a journey of learning, of growth, of development and more importantly it […]

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Intensity, Intimacy and Impact

A to Z Challenge – I I have often said that being in a D/s relationship has allowed me to have the INTIMACY and the INTENSITY that I always wanted but never thought I would find. I always felt too much for someone before and, although they seemed to want […]

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A to Z - H

Head, Humiliation and Happy Ever Afters

A to Z Challenge – H They do say that the most important sex organ is the brain and for me that is definitely true. What goes on in my HEAD is a recurring theme in many of the posts written here on my blog, although I have chosen to link It’s […]

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Growth, Giving and Gentlemen

A to Z Challenge – G Today is the letter G and my first topic is GROWTH. For me, a huge part of this journey has been about personal growth. D/s has given me the secure base with which to try things that I never would have before. It has […]

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