wearing his collar and cuffs out to dinner

Wearing his collar and cuffs

I get ready as usual in the clothes that we have agreed I will wear. I see that on the counter, he has set out my play collar and cuffs.  It is not unusual to see them because often a hotel stay will include some heavier play and I know […]

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Elust 126

Elust #126

So thrilled that my post Colour Match is one of the top three posts for this edition! Here it is; Elust #126. Photo courtesy of May More of Sex Matters Welcome to Elust 126– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every […]

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flaunting myself

If you’ve got it, flaunt it.

I am not very good at flaunting myself. I tend not to have the confidence to do it, although I would like to. I have been able to do it before and have enjoyed it. It has only come at a time when I felt really good about myself, usually […]

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hitting the marks

Hitting the Marks

I remember when I got my first mark from a spanking. It was a bruise and I loved it. I kept looking at it and it made me feel like a proper submissive somehow. It was my secret and it told the story of my secret life. It also made […]

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Bathtime Fun

Bathtime Fun

HisLordship and I have managed to sneak away for a night to a nice hotel, with a nice room, and this rather cool bath.  It feels like ages since we had some fun like this together and although the bath and the room are cool, I am hoping that everything […]

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Priorities - motivated and ready to go

Priorities – motivated and ready to go

I admit I have felt somewhat motivated by the posts I have seen so far about people sorting out their life with relevant goals etc. I touched loosely on the way I wanted things to go this year in 2020 – Time to Explore and then in The List – […]

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My Shadow

According to the psychologist Carl Jung, the Shadow Self is made up of the aspects of our personality that we choose to reject and repress. Most of us never know our shadow as those elements remain in our sub-conscience and only manifest themselves through what he terms as projection, where […]

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submissive mindset

Submissive mindset and other thinking parts

So what is a submissive mindset? Generally there is quite a bit of reference on D/s sites to mindset. To me, having a submissive mindset is about the way that I think. It is a state that I am in which is determined by what is going on around about […]

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Time to explore

2020 – Time to Explore

This year has been a strange one. There has been some change, but in the same sense, not much has actually changed. I have done a lot of reflecting and thinking about where I want to go with the various areas of my life, so it feels odd somehow, to […]

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Colour Match

Colour Match

He opened the car door and led her into the shop. She couldn’t believe he was actually going to do this. Or more importantly, that he was going to make her do it. It was beyond embarrassing, but something deep inside her thrilled her and made her want to go […]

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elust 124

Elust #125

Photo courtesy of Focused and Filthy Welcome to Elust 125– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in […]

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Hourglass

Hourglass?

This is one of the images that we took for the letter H prompt earlier at the beginning of December. I was going for hourglass but when I saw it, it looked far less hourglass than it had looked, or indeed felt, at the time. I decided to go with […]

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Elf on the Shelf

Elf on the Shelf

As a family we have never done Elf on the Shelf and I only really heard about it the last five years or so, and, like Black Friday, appears to be another of those things which we have adopted from the US. The idea behind it seems to be an […]

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Control and D/s - the beginning and the end of everything

Control and D/s

The topic this time for Tell Me About is control. I really don’t know if I have any more to say on the subject. And yet I probably do. Why? Well because control is the beginning and the end of everything in D/s really. You can’t have a D/s relationship […]

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Naughty and Nice

Naughty and Nice

Naughty and Nice is part 2 to This post where Isabelle finds herself over the knee of her husband, receiving her first ever spanking. * * * * * * * She felt his finger press against her hole then and gasped. Was he really going to do what he […]

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fist of winter

Fist of Winter

Number 15 on the calendar for us was ‘The fist of winter’.  I have written about fisting before, and one post that I wrote quite recently was The hows and whys of fisting where I explain more of the nitty gritty to fisting. It also has links to some other posts […]

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Sexy Sleigh Ride

Number 14 of our advent calendar was ‘Sexy sleigh ride home – driver is missy in underwear.’ What could possible go wrong?  HL was off on a night out in town and the plan was for me to collect him and drive him home in only my underwear. Sounded simple […]

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Sensational Sunday for missy

Sensational Sunday for missy was actually sensational Friday. I explained that things sort of threw us off in my Christmas Stockings post but that we are working through our gifts regardless of falling behind. We may still be doing them in January but to me, that will only be a […]

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