School Uniform

So to celebrate comic relief day tomorrow, pupils are asked to dress in red. And teachers are asked to dress in school uniform!  I was the only one of the teaching staff who seemed to be finding this slightly amusing and slightly inappropriate but I guess that is just my not so guilty conscience. The main concern in the staff room seemed to be either the lack of a plain white blouse, or finding a pupil to rent from (money goes to charity of course) who’s blazer would fit and have been freshly laundered. Clearly my issue is more whether or not my usual pigtails and knee high socks are a step too far!  Should make for an interesting day!

The Gift of Giving

Tomorrow I am attending an event where I will be speaking about the value of developing philanthropy in young people.  In thinking about what I might say, I obviously had to consider the rewards of giving, and as I am wont to do, I ended up relating this to a relationship focussed on Dominance and submission.  All relationships are about give and take, but in a D/s relationship there is a really strong emphasis on the give, rather than on the take. Because it is based on A Power Exchange, each one person is thinking about the needs of each other and the emphasis becomes very much about what you can give your partner to make their life easier or more pleasurable or more exciting or more of whatever it is you think will make them happy. Continue reading

Sensory Scene


I am pretty excited as I had not expected a scene today but Sir told me an hour ago that he wanted me to be ready. Having prepared myself, I enter the room.  He holds me for a while and tells me that he loves me and that he is going to abuse me a little. He turns me around to face the full length mirrored wardrobe doors and strokes me. I am looking at his face but he tells me to look at my body while he touches me and tells me how much he likes it. He tells me how hard I make him and already I am leaving myself behind and relaxing into just being his. He has set up the play bench and he instructs me to sit down on it and then he places a blindfold across my eyes. He tells me to lie down on my back and he lifts my legs up and bends them at the knee and opens them so that I am exposed to him. Next he reminds me of my safe-words, places a set of headphones on my ears and soon all that I hear is the sound of Morcheeba.  Continue reading

Wednesday Canesday

When HisLordship first introduced regular caning on a Wednesday, I’ll admit that I wondered why.  I am not sure why I had this reaction as I like it when he canes me but I think that I worried it might feel different if it was a regular scheduled thing and not part of our play.  Sir had told me that he planned to have a regular discussion session where we would catch up on all things D/s. He said that we would go to bed in good time, I would complete our bedroom routine as usual and then I would present myself for a caning session. I think I was probably apprehensive about whether or not it would hurt and I wondered what would happen if I was not in the mood. It was during our Wednesday discussion that he first suggested it so we were able to talk about some of these things.  Continue reading

Submissive Questions

the-cognitive-triangle-one-time-through3All behaviour is communication whether it is based on something that you say or something that you do. So the way you behave will say something to those around about you about what you are thinking and what you are feeling.  Your behaviour will also provoke a thought, a feeling and a subsequent response from other people too and I think that this is an important thing to remember, especially when thinking about how and what you are communicating to others. Continue reading

Online FrienDships

download-9It has been two weeks since I last posted and I am shocked at how fast things move.  To be honest it is the hideously fast pace of my life which has kept me away so I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised that the same thing happens in the virtual world as it does in my life off-line. An even more crazy than normal workload at school, a wonderful visit from some D/s friends, and a birthday complete with teenage party and family celebration to arrange has kept me not only from writing but even from reading.  This has led me to realise two things: the first is how busy I am on a day to day basis and the second is how large a part of my life is spent in online communication and friendships, be it through blogging, messaging services or by email contact. Continue reading

Let’s get Physical

images-1Recently we had cause to consider whether or not His Lordship should accept work which meant us living apart for some of the time. This was a tough decision. Obviously the usual pros and cons had to be taken into account, but how it affected our D/s was also a large consideration. We talked about our relationship and both agreed that although we thought it could sustain the distance; we wouldn’t know until we tried of course, but we feel that our marriage is strong and we didn’t see it affecting the way we feel about each other. However, how we would make our Dominance and submission work is a much more complicated question and we both knew it would certainly look a lot different to the way it is now. Continue reading