Excited, Nervous – Save the Date!

HL and I have attended Eroticon for the past two years. In short, we have been inspired, motivated and enthused by what we learned there. We have also felt welcomed, included and accepted by a whole community of people who are altruistic, encouraging and who we are excited to be […]

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self love

The things I do for (self) Love

Let me start by saying that I am not good at self love. It is not something that comes naturally and I can slip quite easily into being my own worst critic. Like many things in this world, however, I know the theory, I just don’t always put it into […]

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Astrology - chinese chart

Astrology – A lot of old poppycock?

I am not much into astrology as the title of my post might suggest. I did read the little blurbs on the back pages of ‘Patches’ when I was young so that I could check out what was in my stars for romance, but I can’t say that I ever […]

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outrage

Outrage

So I know that I am later with my Masturbation Monday post than I would like to be. I also know that this isn’t about masturbation and that it doesn’t fit the prompt. However, Kayla has always been very gracious in allowing a variety of posts and, as someone who […]

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Photography and collaboration

Photography and collaboration

When we were away the other week we had a nice apartment with a mirror. I have always really liked mirror pictures as I like the reflection and the way the mirror sort of distorts the image so that it appears to tell a story. I had an idea for […]

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reset

Reset or reality

I am struggling to write about resets. I realise that we have not reset for a long time and that leads me to consider why. It would be good if I could say that it was because things were going so well with our D/s dynamic that it was not […]

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the hows and whys of fisting

The hows and whys of fisting

I have written about what we get out of fisting before and also about why sometimes it meets a need that nothing else can, but I don’t think I have ever got down to the nitty gritty of fisting itself. So that is what I plan to do in this […]

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vampire

Vampire Girl

Lower and lower went her head as the lips went below the range of my mouth and chin and seemed to fasten on my throat. Then she paused, and I could hear the churning sound of her tongue as it licked her teeth and lips, and I could feel the […]

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Showing Stigma the Finger

Showing Stigma the Finger

I have been fortunate not to have suffered a lot of stigma in my life, but when I saw an email from Hot Octopuss yesterday explaining their #ShowStigmaTheFinger campaign, I felt it was such a good cause that I wanted to take part. Anything that raises the profile of a […]

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Finding your thrill

Finding your Thrill

“You live by what you thrill to, and there’s the end of it.”― D.H. Lawrence   I am happy to have found the thing that I thrill to. I don’t necessarily think that means the end to it for me, or really there would be no blog, but we are […]

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Fear, insecurity, anxiety and self-doubt

There’s a fear. Fear of falling behind, of not meeting others’ expectations of me, of being left behind because I am just too slow and not good enough to keep up. And that is my life. I am well and truly over committed and falling behind; not meeting my own […]

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The road not taken

The road not taken for a very long time

I have written about discovering that I was submissive before and, little pitch coming up, even had a piece called ‘Submission and Me‘ published in ‘Discovery; An Eroticon Anthology’.  I have wondered about why it took me until I was in my 40s to work it all out and why […]

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Being the submissive

Being the submissive in our Relationship

First of all I would like to start by making a distinction that for me, being a submissive or the submissive is not the same as being submissive.  A submissive (noun) is the name for someone who adopts a submissive role within a power exchange dynamic, in my case this […]

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What is a scene?

So tell me, what is a scene?

I was asked some time ago what a scene was. The question came via a comment on my blog and the commenter said she had searched my blog for more information or some sort of definition.  I promised at the time that a post would follow but here I am, […]

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Moments in Time

These moments in time

I think that one of the important things I have applied to my relationship with HL is about moments. I came to realise that a lot of what was positive in a relationship came from taking those little thoughts that I have, the random flashes, and committing to making them […]

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elust 123

Elust #123

Photo courtesy of Deviant Succubus Welcome to Elust 123– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust […]

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Awkward

Now that’s awkward!

The prompt word for Wicked Wednesday this week is AWKWARD.  Well I have been in a lot of awkward situations in my lifetime but the ones which are more relevant to here are concerning the two different areas of my life: kinky and non-kinky.  While some overlap goes unnoticed, there […]

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masturbation sunday

Masturbation Sunday

Recently things have been crazy full on.  I have new routine, following my re-acquisition of the home and kitchen, when HL went back to work full time. I feel much happier and more connected to be honest, but I am also much busier. I feel a little bit like a […]

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