Pussy Flogger Fun

Pussy Flogger Fun

Pussy Flogger Fun
The flogger was one of the first impact toys we bought.

When we first started to experiment more with kink as part of our Dominance and submission, I was keen to experience the flogger. I had read so much about it in fiction and loved the way it was described. We had used hand spanking for quite a while and loved it; when we looked into impact toys, the flogger seemed like a gentle progression. I have to say, when we actually tried it, I was left feeling a little underwhelmed. I know that this will disappoint all of the flogger enthusiasts out there, and I know for a fact that there are lots of people who all experience amazing highs from being flogged. However, I felt a little disappointed that it didn’t feel as good as I had expected it to.

Not to be put off, we persevered.

What was it we were missing? What had we done wrong?

Well, being honest, I don’t think we had done anything wrong. We tried different positions, different techniques, different floggers and even attended a flogging workshop, but it remained, ….., nice, and not amazing. And it was nice. There was really nothing I disliked about it, but it didn’t send me feeling dreamy and lost and the way I knew I could feel with spanking or other forms of impact. We wondered if a better quality flogger would do the trick and purchased a gorgeous custom-made deer skin one which would be more thuddy than stingy.

Feeling cold and being lazy

It sounds a bit silly when I say it, but these were a couple of the things that I think made flogging feel like it wasn’t for me. I often feel cold and the cool air that was created by the swirling and swishing of the flogger kept me feeling very present and aware of my body, long before I could relax into it and enjoy the contrast against my burning skin. Another thing which kept me very present was standing up. I told HL quite early on that I thought I was a lazy sub because the weight of my body as I stood there seemed to become my focus and detracted from the sensation of the falls against my skin.

Basically I just wanted to lie down and be played with.

While submission is all about, well ….. , submitting, I think that you do have to be in the right headspace. I realised with the flogger, and with some of the other things we tried, that being able to relax and let go of my body was part of what helped to do that. For some reason the focus on it early in play means that I am so aware of myself that I try to control how I feel, instead of letting the sensations take me where we both want me to go. For me what works is focusing on HL, allowing his voice to ground me and root me, connecting me to him.

It means that when my body responds, it responds to him rather than to me. This increases the feeling of submission because I am not only thinking like he wants me to, my body is responding in a way which is no longer a conscious choice. It is doing what he wants it to and the realisation of this furthers the feeling of losing control and pushes me further into my submissive space. When I am consciously aware of how my body feels to me, it means that I try to control it and channel my thoughts in a way which will do that. Essentially, I overthink.

Enter, the pussy flogger.

It was during one of the times that I was lying down submitting to the delicious dominance that is the focus of my play with HL, that he introduced the pussy flogger. I don’t think it is called that at all really. It was a small flogger that we had bought when we started out and despite the fact that I don’t tend to use the word pussy (doesn’t feel right I guess) the mini flogger became aptly named after HL used it on my clit. He also used it on my nipples, and on my thighs, and between my legs. Unlike the large flogger which we had used mainly on my back, shoulders and bum, the pussy flogger felt bloody amazing.

This time, the cool air was a momentary release from the heat of my arousal and the promise of another sensual sting as it hit my most intimate parts. The rhythmic movements led me to crave more as he toyed with me, stopping and starting and shifting and moving it over me so that I couldn’t prepare for the pattern of his attentions. The loss of control I felt was immense. My body was responding faster than my thoughts could process and I was caught right in that sweet spiral where pleasure and its counterpart of pain work together to slowly overwhelm and undo me.

The flogger on my nipples felt amazing.

It felt like it brought them to life with a sensation that was way too much and not enough, all at the same time. Each time the falls landed it was like they were tweaked, squeezed and pulled, producing a pain which was intense but momentary. It seemed to dissipate and travel down my body forcing me to push my hips up as if searching for more. The more sensitive my nipples became from the repeated sensation, the more I wanted more. Not just of that, but more elsewhere.

It created a need to feel the flogger on my clit too.

HL is pretty skilled at sensation play. He knows my body well and reads it’s reactions and responses in a way that comes from true physical intimacy. The mini flogger is one of the things that he sometimes uses as part of sensation play to wake up my body, switching it on slowly bit by bit. I will become hyper focussed on the sensations he creates as he moves over every inch of my body, drawing it to him with the response he elicits from it. It is hard to describe. It feels a bit like a charge which he slowly creates over the surface of my body, making each part very sensitive and highly responsive.

He will trail the flogger in teasing ways across my skin, leaving no part untouched. Then he begins to focus his attentions with harder strokes to my thighs. He lets the falls catch me between the legs with the promise of more to come. Sometimes at this point I feel my body buck, pushing towards the sensation and embarrassing me as I hear him laugh and comment on it. After what feels like long time of torment, he will tell me to open my legs further and I will really lose control.

The slapping sound is a sign of how wet he has made me.

I can hear it each time he strikes me and it makes me cringe as I feel the thin leather falls pull at my skin as they stick to me. Sometimes it will land directly and others he will twist the flogger so that the ends catch; both feel good and both make me wanton for more. My whole body feels as if it is on fire, burning not just in a physical sense but emotionally too. I feel overwhelmed by my desire for this, for more, for him. I want to hang in that moment forever, caught on the brink as I teeter helplessly between the pleasure and the pain.

So it turns out that I do like flogging.

The pussy flogger is overwhelming, not underwhelming in the way that I found the larger floggers which I stood up to take. I am sure that what it makes me feel is how others feel from more traditional flogging, so I don’t want to write a piece which puts people off trying something which might feel incredible for them. We are all different and it is important to remember that in terms of play, those differences are as much mental and psychological as they are physical. There are lots of things I have said to HL I don’t like, only to discover that with him, I really do.


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22 Comments

  1. Love your posts!! Couple of things you wrote resonated with me. “When I am consciously aware of how my body feels to me, it means that I try to control it…” Awareness of what you are feeling is important, as those feelings are what includes all those lovely endorphins and feel-good chemicals the body naturally produces. But as you stated, it can morph into trying to control those feelings. I’d describe subspace being a balance between awareness and oblivious. Too much of the latter and you may injure yourself. Too much of the former and you end up over thinking and not enjoying as you should.
    The other thing that resonated with me was the lack of a thrill from being spanked by the flogger, but loving it on your pussy and elsewhere. It never connects with me (emotionally) when used on my butt, but I love it when my breasts are flogged. Pussy is nice too, but my fav is my breasts. I like the added sensation of feeling the “wind” in my hair. Also, I am weird in that I don’t like spanking for pleasure. I prefer to leave that strictly for discipline, but “flogging for fun” when it means other parts of my body. . . count me in! And as you experienced, you do have to experiment with different sizes to find what your body enjoys the most. The longer the flogger the more of a “whip” sensation, the shorter it is the more of a “thud-like” sensation. I prefer the longer ones on my breasts, the shorter ones on my pussy. TMI? haha.

    • Thank you. And I don’t think here that can be TMI lol. I agree about the space. I think the being present is when things are more physical to start with. Then I keep thinking. If there is some humiliation or something to trigger that mental space then it works much better. Thanks for commenting – it is always interesting to hear how it works for other people too 😊

  2. lovely description Missy. I felt underwhelmed in the beginning too, but have learned it was from not doing it for long enough, if that makes sense. also the right flogger helps. I enjoy the thud, but need the sting as well, if that makes sense.
    Nothing wrong with a good pussy flogging though 🙂

    • Thanks MrsK and that is interesting to know. We have tried to for long enough for it to work I think but I have wondered how much the position matters. If I ever get a chance to try a cross then I would be keen to give that a go 😊

  3. It always make my ears prick up when I read your account of things we do or have done. You may say afterwards that play was good and that you enjoyed it, however, your reflective writing says so much more. It will get you into trouble!

  4. Lovely read missy, we too have a mixed relationship with flogging and have ended up using a crop instead, especially in regards to impact on the clit. I can also understand that feeling of not being sure that you like something until you get that positive experience that results in a shift in mindset.

    • It has been interesting reading g the flogging posts how mixed people’s experience is. I think when we read generally around kink it seems to be something that everyone else loves but perhaps this is not really the case. Missy x

  5. Your talk of the pussy flogger reminded me of the time my clit was flogged and it eventually sent me into tears, because it was just so damn intense. As for being a lazy sub… while reading your words I suddenly realized (should’ve tried before to come to this conclusion myself) that indeed, I am too focused on my body when I stand. I much prefer to lie down, so I don’t have to think of keeping myself upright…
    Great post, Missy!
    ~ Marie xox

    • Thanks Marie. Good to know that I am not alone is my laziness. I was surprised in that way that the suspension cuffs worked as it didn’t happen the same with them. Did you find a cross allowed you to let go? I would like to try one to see. missy x

    • Thank you gem. I really should have had a picture of the pussy flogger instead but the big flogger looked better 😊

  6. Fascinating missy, and I can see this. We have a small basic flogger and both of us enjoy it a lot, what underwhelmed me – when I was expecting it to ramp the sensations up – was the paddle we bought. I loved your descriptions of how HL plays you like a harp – it sounds so sexy!

    • I have found that a bit with a paddle but I think it can depend what one you have. A much prefer his hand to a paddle though. Thank you. Missy x

  7. Curious, why can’t you lie down to be flogged? I see no issue with that. My Queen usually flogs me bent over the bed but has on occasion flogged me while I’m lying on my stomach.

    • I think that when we have tried it the position hasn’t been right for HL. He is quite tall and also the position of the bed in our room (this is where we tend to be) makes it difficult to get the space. Missy x

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