blogging about mental health

Blogging about mental health and why it’s important

Currently the prompt for SB4MH is to choose the most popular post you have written for the meme. I have been blogging about mental health for a while and when I went back through all of those I had written, the most read post in my Mental Health category was not one that had been linked to SB4MH, as it was written prior to that. The most widely read linked post that I did was this one about eating disorders, or more specifically, my eating disorder and how living with disordered eating has affected me. If you would like to read it and haven’t already then please just click on the picture of the post below.

I am not sure whether it was because it was posted during eating disorder awareness week, or whether it was just luck but I was quite pleased to see it had done well as the post felt really personal.

Mental health is a topic that is important to me and I think that Cat’s meme is such a good thing. There is still an awful lot of stigma around mental health and the only way that things can ever change is by highlighting it. That being said, I have often felt a bit of a fraud joining in. I am someone who has always had an interest in mental health, it is something that plays a large part of the work that I do on a professional level, and I am quite consciously aware of my own mental health and wellbeing. But when there are a lot of sex bloggers who are managing quite significant mental health issues, I sometimes feel that I am not really entitled to take part.

I realise that these are my own issues and Cat, May, and Melody are all so encouraging to those who link up. They all stress that you don’t need to be writing about your own experience, just about the topic in general. This makes a lot of sense. A big part of reducing stigma is about being more open about the things that affect us, and also about promotion of positive mental health and wellbeing, including the strategies that we use to try to manage life and the ups and downs that it throws at us.  I have also written about some of the things that I have learnt from supporting others through my work too.

In fact the SB4MH pledge is as follows:

I pledge my commitment to blog for my mental health. I will write about mental health topics not only for myself but for others. I do this to destigmatize mental illness and to promote mental health awareness & education. I am a sex blogger for mental health. #sb4mh #bfmh #notalone #SexNotStigma

I have written quite a bit about how blogging helps me in a number of ways: the reflection is useful and allows me to work through things which are on my mind, conscious as well as sometimes subconscious; in addition the feedback has given me some acceptance of, not only the way that I look, but also some of the things that I am in to. Being able to be open and honest about my thoughts about sex, as well as who and what I am, has been healing and freeing in lots of ways. My blog has become the place where I can be the person I really feel I am, and it is good to feel that I have found my tribe by being here.

If you haven’t had the chance to look at the Sex Bloggers for Mental Health site, or weren’t aware of it, then I would suggest clicking on the badge below and checking it out. You can get involved by reading and commenting on some of the posts which are linked there, and also by adding your own posts to the weeks as they go by. As with most of the memes there are prompts to inspire and help you, but any relevant posts on the topic of mental health are welcomed. I was surprised when I looked back that I had so many posts in this category, so I have put them together at the bottom of the page. I hope that you find some of them interesting.

 

 

Posts about Mental Health

Relax – recovery will come

Stress Baker

A sense of denial

My Caveman Brain

Food. What’s your Problem? An Eating Disorder Exposed

The things I do for (self) Love

Fear, insecurity, anxiety and self-doubt

A weight on my shoulders

Keeping up with Miss Perfect

Missy’s missing mojo

Being Overlooked

Ghosts from the past

It’s back, and O, so am I

Shhhh! I am trying to sleep

Self-harm

Skeleton in my closet: eating issues undressed

Helicopters, Snow ploughs and Resilience

Laughter and Orgasms

The Art of Listening

Control Freak

Posts, Puppies and Pubes

Picture the Letter F

Mental Health: Food For Thought

Healing

D/s and self-care

Attachment

30 Day Orgasm Fun – First Thoughts

Challenges

Body Image

Being Self-Conscious

Self-control

Hello Yellow

 

Posted in Mental Health.

12 Comments

  1. Your contributions to #sb4mh are much appreciated, Missy. You’re right that the important thing is for there to be a place where people can write without stigma. It takes courage for people to link up, especially the first time.

    There’s an incredible range of topics discussed and I can get the same feelings you describe when I write for a topic, that my personal issues seem fraudulent and trivial compared to what others go through.

    What I particularly like about #sb4mh is that I’ve never seen anyone trivialising, shaming or stigmatising. Posts are often very factual and aim to help others, albeit very personal. Your ‘Eating Disorder’ post is a good example.

    I hope you’ll continue participating and linking to #sb4mh in 2020. ??

    • What you say is so true and I wanted to make it clear that those doubts were all my own and not something that had been said by anyone else. Really that is why it is important to take part and challenge some of those negative thoughts we can have about ourselves. Thank you for your support and I will keep taking part ?

    • I don’t really feel that I have either but I think that sometimes it can be about catching the small things too ?

  2. I’m so glad you write for SB4MH because every post has the potential to remove a bit more of the stigma. I’m really surprised that you write that you don’t think you’re dealing or have dealt with a significant mental health issue as an eating disorder isn’t nothing! But mental health has such a wide spectrum as well. Seasonal affective disorder can seem minor compared to other mental health things, but it’s a mental health thing nonetheless and one that I believe many people will relate to. So every experience is important and I hope you keep on writing from your perspective or from what you know!

    • Thank you. I am pleased that you see it that way. I realise too that an ED is a serious issue but because mine wasn’t diagnosed and I didn’t receive support it feels a bit less valid somehow ?

  3. I haven’t contributed to SB4MH very much, perhaps twice. To begin with it was because I find the number of memes overwhelming at times, but also because I glibly thought, my mental health is fine thank you. Then I reflected on my own physical illness and how it made me feel, on my behaviour at certain times, my body image issues and realised that I have much more to say. So, I hadn’t read the post you linked here until now. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal element of who you are. It’s a powerful post and one that I know I’ll be thinking about for quite a while.

    You are so right, speaking and writing about mental health and illness is vital.

    • Thank you so much Julie. That means an awful lot to me. I look forward to reading future posts about how you have managed things too. I get overwhelmed too and never feel that I have the time to read as much as I want to but am hoping to be better at it this year as I know I am missing out on some really interesting posts ❤️

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