New Traditions

Traditions are something that have been quite significant for us as a couple. I guess that some would say that the things that we do sexually are far from traditional, but the dynamic where I am submissive to HL and he leads and makes the decisions is much more of […]

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Venice Unmasked

It was a strange sort of place, Venice. There was a duplicity about it which tugged at something deep within her.  Its darkness and mystery did the same, and she supposed that was the start of her undoing. By day it was culture and tourism, romance and an old life […]

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Darling, the legs aren’t so beautiful, I just know what to do with them. Marlene Dietrich This week I thought I would post a leg picture. Of all the body parts and all the issues with each one, my legs are one thing that I don’t tend to worry too […]

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Can I put my finger in your arse?

HisLordship and I knew each other quite well by the time we were actually together. As I explained in On the phone, we had talked about lots of things via phone and text and knew that our interests were outside the ordinary. I don’t know if either of us would […]

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On the phone

It is a long time since HisLordship and I engaged in proper phone sex. At the beginning of our relationship it meant everything, as that was the greatest medium we had for regular communication, but since living together we have used it less and less. Having said that, I think […]

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The cloak of lust

‘Colors of Lust’ by Steve K Lust was a cloak that she had not worn in a while. None-the-less she drew it around her and sought to connect with what it would bring her. It was surprising how quickly it began to have an effect. She felt in control. She […]

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Ready, Get set, Go!

The post Ready, Get set, Go was originally published on the blog at The SafeworD/s Club . Although it was co-written with HisLordship, I thought that it might be helpful to anyone visiting here too as clearly I can’t have the experiences that I do, or write about the things that I do, without […]

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Tartan Touch

Nowhere beats the heart so kindly as beneath the tartan plaid! This week I was lucky enough to receive this gorgeous garter from my friend SweetGirl, who made it for me herself. I am not sure that this picture really does it justice but HisLordship and I have been looking […]

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Love and Trust

To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.     George MacDonald I wrote in Domination, submission and Trust that I believe that trust is vital in any relationship.  It is one of the cornerstones and without it the relationship will soon start to crumble.  In the same way, if […]

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A Play and a Symphony

It seems funny now to think of how far I have come since the first naked piano recital that I did for HisLordship. At the time, I was still very shy and body conscious. It was quite near the start of our D/s really and I was trying to push […]

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Fire and Heat

Well I asked for fire and heat and for some reason that is what I got. If only all good thoughts translated to wishes with such speed and such ease! Being honest I am not sure if it was the thinking that changed something within me, the fact that we […]

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Elust 108

Photo courtesy of Steeled Snake Welcome to Elust 108– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust […]

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More or less me

I have always been a more type of person: the more I get the more I seem to want and that motivates me. Conversely, the opposite is also the case: the less I experience something, the less I think about and want it. I seem able to quickly move on, […]

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School’s Out

I actually finished school last week but the events of the weekend didn’t lead to me being able to take the school uniform picture for Sinful Sunday that I had planned. One week in and I have hung up my tie, as it were, and begun to relax. I am […]

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The Middle Ground

I have written before about being a middle and that side of me, but my middle side is something that I have not explored as much as I thought I would. There are a couple of reasons for this: feeling overwhelmed by life and circumstances and having to ‘adult’ on […]

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Currently there is lots of talk in therapy circles about mindfulness. Mindfulness is the name given to a technique where you focus on the here and now and experience the world, and your thoughts and reactions to it, through your senses. It is something that can be practised and in […]

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From a Distance

The topic for our chat last night on The SWC was D/s from a Distance. Basically the focus was on how you keep the dynamic going and make it work when you are not physically together. This is something that we have talked about before on a number of occasions […]

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Tough Love

I have learnt that I need tough love and what that will look like for me. I need a life with very little wriggle room, or else I will wriggle. I have become adept at it over the years. I wriggle in a way which means I am free before […]

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Well that’s it – I am on holiday. It hasn’t got off the the sort of start that I had hoped it would and I am left here, wondering just what to do with my plans. I need to sort out my priorities. There is a huge gap and I […]

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