Fantasies, Fairytales and Fisting

A to Z - FA to Z Challenge – F

First choice for my Fs are FANTASIES. Being in this type of relationship has given us the communication and the trust to enable us to explore parts of ourselves that I don’t think we would necessarily have done before. Part of this has meant being open with each other about our fantasies and trying to fulfil those deep and dark desires. I have always struggled to describe my fantasies as I explain in The Reality of my Fantasy  although I think I have got better as time has gone by. I have noticed as we have explored more and more, that the things I fantasise about have become more extreme. They have always felt like things that turn me on, but are not necessarily things I want to do in reality.  As Sir has turned the fantasy into reality for me, I guess that what I desire has eveolved to accommodate that.
I can’t write about the letter F without mentioning FAIRYTALES. There are fifty shades of stories out there about living the fairytale life as a submissive and it can be very difficult to fit the reality with what fiction has led you to expect. Part of my reason for setting this blog up in the first place was to put forward an honest and realistic view of how it actually was for a regular couple, with jobs and family and the usual ups and downs of life to manage. I would want to warn anyone starting out with this lifestyle that you aren’t creating a new life. You are simply adding another layer to the one you already have. I left the world of fiction for an online community which appeared better at first glance but turned out to be equally as deceptive so my advice would always be to take it all with a pinch of salt. If it seems too good to be true then it probably is: All that glitters …… and all of that!
Equally to be avoided are those who want to shape you into boxes and claim that they have the one true way. If you want to find happiness together then it has to be a fit for you. Any community worth its salt will welcome difference and be accepting of varying lifestyles and interest. They will want to learn from others, not tell them they are wrong and shut them down. For a further rant on such matters see my post entitled Baked beans, bollocks and other beefs! But to round off my fairlytale section, I will leave you with my own personal fairytale: A Tale of Long Ago (or don’t believe the wise old woman)
Glad to get all of that off my chest I can turn now to my final F – FISTING! Now this is something I thought I would never do but sometimes when I have A need to be used nothing else quite hits the spot for me. Sometimes it has to be so overwhelming, so consuming, that I want to feel completely controlled and almost as if I am being torn apart so that I am just left sort of whimpering to him in a cycle of pleasure-pain. To find out more about this please take a look at Four Fingers and Beyond.
I hope that you have feasted on the letter F. Check tomorrow for the letter G and to see the rest of my A-Z, click here: A to Z Challenge
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4 Comments

  1. Another there well thought out post!! I think you are one of the most thoughtful people in my circle of bloggers. You always seem to come up with things that many of us gloss over or even totally ignore. You stimulate thought in all of us. I really appreciate your blog!
    That being said I have only fisted one person once in my life. It was someone I met between my first wife and meeting my Queen. She guided me through it and it was a phenomenal experience. My entire hand was inside her up to my mid forearm. I felt that if she chose to move in a certain way she would snap my arm. She is the only person I’ve known who has wanted that but it is something I will never forget. Stay well!

    • Thank you so much for your kind words. It really means a lot as I often worry that I will bore people. Up to the forearm? Wow. Think we are amateurs compared to that. Also HL is quite big so I am keeping that as my excuse. It isn’t something we do much but sometimes the need for something like that is there. 😊

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