missy's 30 day orgasm project

30 Orgasms and a Dribble

So today marks the end of 30 Day Orgasm Fun, the challenge set by the lovely Tabitha Rayne. I explained in my post 30 Day Orgasm Fun – First Thoughts that I wondered how I would manage with the challenge. I had three considerations which I reviewed in the update, 30 Day Orgasm […]

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Zipper, Zone and Z-job

A to Z Challenge – Z Ok, X was hard but I think that Z is probably more of a challenge, but woo hoo, I made it to the end with this post. I have really found this challenge tough and regretted starting it just because of the sheer number […]

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Exhibitionism

The definition of exhibitionism as, extravagant behaviour that is intended to attract attention to oneself, or in terms of psychiatry, a mental condition characterized by the compulsion to display one’s genitals in public, both have negative connotations. In the kink world, where there are negative connotations for just about every act we enjoy, […]

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being vulnerable

Being Vulnerable

This week has not gone well and I am feeling very vulnerable at the moment. I have been dealing with a situation at work where I have become highly emotionally invested. I wrote about this in When missy came to work and then again in Square pegs, round holes and submission; the whole […]

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Yes, Yours and Yellow

A to Z Challenge – Y Y is for YES as this is something I should be saying a lot. Yes, Sir to be more precise. I think being compliant is something that I have got much better at and I have also stopped asking all the questions which used […]

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X-Frame, X-Rated and Xylophone Mallets

A to Z Challenge – X Ok I will be really honest – the letter X has been a huge challenge. We don’t really do much that starts with X, in real life or in D/s so I am kind of scraping the barrel here. I suppose that the X-FRAME […]

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Warrior Princess, Want and Wand

A to Z Challenge – W When I first asked for this lifestyle, I had no idea really how it would feel. Submitting seemed like something that would work for me for a number of reasons but I didn’t know how easy or difficult I would find it. In reality […]

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Vulnerability, Voyeurism and Value

A to Z Challenge – V My first for the Vs is VULNERABILITY. I would definitely link this to safety as the two go together: I need to feel safe to show my vulnerability but showing my vulnerability leads to me feeling safer. Making yourself vulnerable can be quite uncomfortable at […]

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Understanding, Unique and being Used

A to Z Challenge – U Meeting the needs of the other person has a lot to do with UNDERSTANDING what their needs are. They may become clear during one of your communication sessions, or you may work out what they are based on what you can see in front of […]

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Trust, Transition and Training

A to Z Challenge – T T is another letter where there is quite a lot to say but I want to begin with TRUST. I have always trusted HisLordship but the sort of trust we have now is not anything that I ever would have anticipated. It is linked […]

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Dare to Bare

I have a complicated relationship with nudity and it is one which has changed quite a bit over the past while. I have never liked my body but have always been comfortable enough to show parts of it in the right set of circumstances. That would include being topless when […]

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sketch of me

Me?

I have really struggled this week, which is why I am only now posting the brilliant sketch I received on Monday from the artist, E T Costello. He had responded to the picture I posted on Sunday and offered to do a ‘quick sketch’ (pictured below) during his train journey, […]

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Submission, Spanking and Safety

A to Z Challenge – S An obvious for S would have to be SUBMISSION but that would mean linking my entire blog really. I have chosen the post The faces of my submission as I think that I have always been aware that there were many different sides to the way I […]

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Rules, Resets and Roleplay

A to Z Challenge – R My first R is RULES but for us this probably needs a mention to rituals as well as the two go hand in hand. Our rules, and rituals, have changed and grown with us. We started simple with just a few but have added […]

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Questions, keeping Quiet and Quickies

A to Z Challenge – Q Q is a more challenging letter to write about as the only thing that sprang to mind when I thought about a kinky alphabet was queening and we don’t do that. So my first Q is QUESTIONS.  As a submissive I find it helpful […]

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Pleasure, Pain and Power

A to Z Challenge – P Although two separate things, for me PLEASURE and PAIN sort of come together as that is how I like them. I have written about how that works in Pleasure from Pain but I have also written before about the pleasure that comes from being submissive which […]

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unexpected

Unexpected

Wicked Wednesday Prompt #307: What would YOU do with a million dollars? It was easy really as it had never felt like their money in the first place. They had bought the estate with a view to making more of it and that had certainly happened. It had been quiet at […]

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Orgasms, Oral and Openness

A to Z Challenge – O An obvious for the letter O is ORGASMS and I have already written a series of posts about different types of orgasms. I am also taking part in the 30 day orgasm challenge this month so that has left me writing quite a bit […]

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Elust 105

Photo courtesy of Mrs Fever Welcome to Elust 105– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust […]

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Nudity, Need and Nipple Play

A to Z Challenge – N My first N is NUDITY. Nudity is something that HisLordship loves and wants more of. I struggled with it initially but have made leaps and bounds of late. When I did my submissive advent calendar for him, I included naked piano playing and a […]

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