Married submissive: The love, the kink and the connection.

About Me

This site is about Dominance and submission and about my journey as a submissive wife. I would say that there is nothing very unusual about me. I am a wife, a mother and a teacher and I live with my husband in a pretty Scottish town. I enjoy reading, travelling and spending time with friends and family. However, since 2014 I have been a submissive to my husband and Dominant and this has changed our lives in a subtle but amazing way.

We have built a dynamic which is open, honest and loving and at the same time this has allowed us to explore and experience some of our deep and darkest desires together. The key to things working for us has been communication which has allowed us to truly build the respect and trust we have needed to reach a level of intimacy and intensity that I had only dreamed about before.  If you would like to know more about how I got here then you might want to start with this post: How I Got Here.  If you are interested in introducing a D/s dynamic into you relationship then you might find the D/s for Married Couples page helpful.

I started blogging because I wanted to share my experiences in the hope that someone else out there might make a connection with what I am writing. Please use the categories above to check out some of my posts and let me know what you think by commenting on them. If you like what you read then please let me know by hitting the like button or, preferably, follow me.

HisLordship and I have learnt a lot by talking to others and have also made some great friends. It is for this reason that we decided to create The SafeworD/s Club which is an online community for Dominant and submissive couples.  Please find out more by visiting the site.

24 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Thank you. I have been waiting for a blog by a real woman. A wife and mother.
    I’m a sub at heart but, having been introduced to this dynamic by my Dom husband, I desperately need guidance.
    Please would you be willing/interested in helping me?

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    1. Hello prettygirl. I would be happy to try to help you. I can’t hold myself up as any sort of expert as I think that we all just feel our way with this but I would be pleased to listen and to share my own experiences with you. My email address address is if you would like to get in touch 😊


  2. I love reading, and I loved reading your blog. I am a glad follower of yours, now, and I hope I can learn some things by reading about yours.
    I am new to this whole dynamic, in that I am actively choosing to be in a D/s relationship. I am going into it with my eyes open. 🙂
    I am excited about taking such an active role in my own life, after 20 years of sleeping.
    Thanks for allowing me the privilege of learning from you.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind comments. I am glad that you are finding my blog helpful. It is a brave thing to change your life after such a long time but I am so pleased that you have found something that feels like a true and proper fit for you. If you ever want to chat things through then please feel free to get in touch 😊

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      1. I’m not sure ‘preferred’ is the right word. I’m curious as to why you changed to this particular banner. Do you feel it represents you in some way? To me, it doesn’t say ‘missy’ in any way. Butt, that’s my opinion. 😉


  3. My Daddy died. Unexpectedly of a heart attack. He was only 49. He died 8 months ago. What we had goes so far beyond boyfriend/girlfriend. He was my world. He was my everything. Not many knew of our Le Dom/sub relationship, so no one truly gets the depth of my loss. I was totally devoted to him. Mind. Body. Heart. Soul. I can’t seem to find any peace. I have no one to turn to for help. I’m hoping maybe there’s someone out there who has been through this. I need help. If there’s anyone who sees this and has any words to help, I would appreciate it. Thank you. Lisa
    My email is

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    1. Hi Lisa. I am so sorry to hear of your loss and I really can’t begin to imagine how devastating and difficult that would be. If you wanted to chat to others about submission or being submissive then you would be welcome at our site – Although I am not aware of anyone in the same situation as yourself you will find other people who are likeminded to talk to. In terms of people seeing your comment and responding, I wondered if you would like me to post it on my blog as that would reach more people than as a comment and there may be someone out there who has had a similar experience? Please let me know if that is something that you think may be helpful. missy


  4. Hi. Feeling shy because I’m brand new to this. The majority of my fantasies since I was young (I’m 46 now) have involved some form of Dom element- tied up, spankings, being told what to do, etc
    Anyway I’m happily married and my husband is pretty excited to share this journey w me. Can u suggest some play ideas to get us started? Sample scenes etc. we’re just not sure where to start – we have discussed limits and such but where do we begin w the actual play? Any help would be appreciated
    He instructed me to perform fellatio in the garage last night kneeling on the cold ground which I really liked- we then experimented w a little spanking which I really really liked. Any help is appreciated

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  5. So I wonder if I am weird…my husband bends me over the bed, a chair, his lap, and spanks me with his hand, my hairbrush, hangers, his slipper, his belt. Hard. I come and I love it. What is wrong with me?

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    1. Thank you so much. That is very kind and I love yours too. I remember when I first started blogging I saw your pictures and wanted to take some myself. It has taken a while to follow your inspiration but I have got there in the end . I really appreciate your nomination 😁

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  6. Hi,

    I’ve really enjoyed reading your blog, my husband and I have been trying to work this our around the family lifestyle, and you have given us an inside as to how it can work.
    We are in a different relationship, where my husband is in the sub position, like your situation was, my husband has always been a fan of this lifestyle and I am new and learn. I was wondering if you had any pointers particularly in regards to how contacts can work with the family situation.


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    1. Hi Sharna. I am glad that the blog has been helpful and I am pleased that you are enjoying the lifestyle. Feel free to send me an email if you have questions or come along to chat the the SafeworD/s club if that is easier. 😊 missy x


  7. Iam new into this world of being a sub. I’ve gotten into a relationship with a dom who has said that he loves the power play between a sub and dom. So my Doms currently trying to fix another sub and just totally leaving me by the wayside for the week. No amount of asking for him to pay attention to me will he actully pay ful attention to me. I’m not even sure what I should do.

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